Luke 9:23-24 (NIV) Then he said to them all: “If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me. For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will save it.”
Relationship with God is not a passive relationship. It is active. It is real. It is painful most of the time like you are dying. And the good thing is–God will create a new life in me. He will bring me back to life. New life in Christ.